You Are Not Entitled To A Woman
Not for you.
There has been quite a bit of discussion1 on the internet about the Nice Guy: whether he’s actually nice, whether there’s a difference between a nice guy and a Nice Guy, whether he’s redeemable, and so on.2
The discussion seems to have been started by a particularly repulsive post on Craigslist. In it, a “nice guy” responds to a theoretical woman’s question — “What happened to all the nice guys?” — with an angry, “You did.” His argument is that the nice guys have been there for women who “used” them for their friendship and then chose to sleep with assholes.
A particularly winning line lays out the “Nice Guy” mindset:
You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy.
And, just like that, we’re to the crux of the matter: I’m sorry, but the universe does not owe you a woman.
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- See, for example, Divalion’s must-read post, Ladyjestyr’s good post on why the term “nice” is meaningless, and Mightygodking’s hilarious dissection of the Craigslist post. [↩]
- Before you object to me calling out men’s failings while ignoring women’s — yes, women have tons of stupid things we do in regard to men. But that’s a different blog post, and someone else can do it. [↩]
